Book Review: The End of Belonging: Untold Stories of Leaving Home and the Psychology of Global Relocation

The End of Belonging: Untold Stories of Leaving Home and the Psychology of Global Relocation

Greg A Madison. (2010). London: Createspace.

The End of Belonging is a beautifully written book which should appeal to many Journal readers. As well as introducing the concept of 'existential migration' it deals broadly, and in some depth, with the fundamental existential themes of 'home', 'belonging', 'leaving/returning', 'identity', 'community' and 'loss'. It places 'existential migration' alongside other forms of migration, exile, and social movement.

Before proceeding further, I'd like to acknowledge my own relationship to this book. I have known the author, Dr. Greg Madison, for some time, and he and I share a keen interest, if not an intense fascination, with the themes I've just referred to, and more. In fact, Madison kindly references my workshop, 'A Stranger in a Strange Land', and it was probably during one of my early workshops that we first met properly. So I do not claim to approach this book from a neutral perspective, rather, one of keen interest and intrigue, and perhaps even 'longing', a sensation common to those described in the book. As a voluntary migrant myself, I've searched to find myself within its pages. One particular description really spoke to me:

My family cannot understand; anyone who chose to stay behind would not comprehend...The imperative was to follow 'potential' as an end in itself, not as a means to material betterment...After all is said, there is also optimism and satisfaction and some pride from having followed the mysterious path of the unknown with courage, concurrent with a niggling thought that it might actually have taken more courage to stay.

(p128)

The book offers a commentary on early 21st-century living, and the consequences of a 'global village approach'. It makes useful reading for anyone considering their own style of living, or those working with people from the many diaspora communities, or in fact, those who have found themselves compelled to leave, and perhaps to leave again and again. Madison has based his book on his doctoral research with individuals, all of whom have, on the face of it, left home 'voluntarily'. And much of the writing is presented through the very eloquent and evocative voices of his research participants.

As with many topics, the theme of this book, 'existential migration', a term coined by Madison, can be seen as a human enterprise applicable in some way to many, but writ large in the process of the existential migrant. Having said that, Madison is at pains to say that he wants to avoid another 'diagnostic category', or 'personal label'; rather he offers 'there may well be individuals who are more likely to engage in "existential migration" due to their openness to certain sensitivities or potentials in life...(p)122). This is a little tricky. As ever, naming something is both invaluable and linguistically useful, while limiting and sedimenting. Madison goes on to speak of 'recognising someone from the tribe'. Perhaps there is a loose 'tribe' that this name refers to. I remember Eva Hoffman, in Lost in Translation describing being an 'immigrant' as a metaphorical place. It seems difficult, if not impossible to get away from the social nature of humans, and the draw towards some sort of group identity. Ironically this is fundamentally what the book is about.

One of the unexpected bonuses the book offers is an introduction to an array of authors I hadn't encountered before. The likes of American philosopher, Glen Gray, who is quoted as describing the mood of existentialism as 'a feeling of the homelessness of man' (Gray, 1951: p114), or Andreea Ritivoi, author of Yesterday's Self (p.132-133) and Nigel Rapport, author of I Am Dynamite, both postmodern writers who grapple with questions of self, identity, and the implications of the migrant experience.

While reading the book, I found myself returning again and again to the title itself. The End Of Belonging, so dense and so evocative. Early on, we are given a hint of Madison's own view when he says '...if we notice the world is hurdling towards a global enterprise that may turn out to be the end of belonging itself' (pp14-15). He goes on to offer us his understanding of how the concepts of home and belonging inter-relate, or not, and the tragically, paradoxical nature of belonging.

In the second part of the book, devoted to a more theoretical consideration of the experience of leaving home, and the development of global homelessness (p130) he says, ' We are in danger of entering an era of lostness, the end of belonging in either its restricted conforming sense or its more open authentic sense...' (p176).

I found myself deeply engaged with the book, at times, arguing with the sentiments or thoughts expressed; at other times, pondering questions I hadn't actually thought of before, which is always a bonus.

It does present a radical thesis...it's as if there is something more 'authentic' about the experience of 'existential migration' than other forms of living. And of course, there is an argument to be had. I once heard George Steiner suggesting that we should all be 'refugees'. Madison refers to Heidegger (p176), what is most authentic for humanity is always what is out of the ordinary, and goes on to say, 'Such sentiments clearly echo the attitudes and experiences of many of the participants.'

While recognising my own restlessness, nevertheless, in response, I found myself inclined to shout, 'but what about noticing the newness, the unfamiliar in the familiar?', as displayed most vividly perhaps in the work of the Italian artist Vitali, who spent decades painting the same still-life arrangement.

While Madison sets out to introduce and put 'existential migration' on the map, and therefore to present its validity and acknowledge its worth as a way of living, the implied subtext, that a settled life is in some way a compromise, is a familiar conundrum, very 'existential', rather provocative, indeed potentially patronising. It seems difficult to resist the hierarchical, competitiveness that besets us in so many dimensions of life. And so, yet another very, very interesting theme is opened up.

The book as a whole, is powerful, and potentially very challenging reading for some, while for others, will perhaps offer that illusive sense of coming home, being recognised and validated.

References

Hoffman, E. (1989). Lost in Translation. London: Minerva.

Madison, G. (2010). The End Of Belonging. London, England.

Steiner, G. speaking to the Society for Christians and Jews, at the Liberal Jewish Synagogue, in London, May, 2005.

Harriett Goldenberg

The End of Belonging: Untold Stories of Leaving Home and the Psychology of Global Relocation

Greg A Madison. (2010). London: Createspace

The haunting title of Dr Madison's book combined with the ambiguity of the photographic image on the front cover of a boy-child-monk, dressed in traditional rust-red and orange Buddhist robes whilst immersed in his Gameboy, intrigues. It is at once calming and seductive; where is this going?

Written in the style of a research study, this book attempts to address the universal question of Home; what does it mean to feel at-home or homeless and, in particular, to expose the many untold stories of leaving home and the psychology of global relocation. It is written in two parts: the first part investigating individual accounts of the phenomenological act of leaving, and the second part bridging these acts with deeper philosophical explorations informed by the works of Freud on 'The Uncanny' (1919/1955) and Heidegger's 'Unheimlich' (1962). The second part addresses the practical implications involved in a call for authenticity around the idea of 'homecoming', challenges common assumptions, and concludes with a cautionary note on globalisation.

The haunting aspect is reflected in the Introduction, where Dr Madison highlights the ghost-like experience of the many and growing number of human beings in the 21st century who are relocated, chose to move, are forced to flee or, follow their spouses to a foreign location, and whose stories are unrecorded and unacknowledged. He coins the term 'existential migrant' to describe these people and uses words such as invisible, lurking, on the edge, and solitary to elaborate and offer a sense of their experience.

The Introduction sets up a picture of something completely opposite to the common idea of home and, therefore, the sentence 'Home is a human aspiration' both resonates and startles.

When Dr Madison writes that he hopes the book offers succour to existential migrants, he is particularly interested in those people whom he describes as voluntary migrants; those who choose to leave home for a variety of reasons but for whom their very existence, sense of aliveness or survival, in philosophical, psychological and spiritual ways, depends upon an attraction to difference, foreignness, the alien, etc. For example, 'she realized that by leaving home she was in fact choosing to exist. She was heeding a call to save herself from a life of ghostly servitude to others' expectations.'

Harriett Goldenberg